Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One
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Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

Hi, my name is Crystal, and I love tradition and ritual, but I also love novel things and creating something special just for one person. When my mum died a few years ago, I decided that I wanted to write her funeral service – not just my eulogy, but the whole service. I wanted to tie in traditional elements as well as Bible verses and poems that she loved, but I also wanted something that was just for her and her alone. I learned a lot through that experience. If you have lost a loved one, I extend you my sympathy. I know how that feels, and I want to help with the funeral service. This blog has ideas and tips for writing your own service as well as a range of other things. I hope it helps.


Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

Working with a Funeral Director: 4 Tips

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If you've never had to plan a funeral before, the prospect of working with a funeral director can be daunting. After all, this is likely a very difficult time in your life, and you want to make sure that everything is handled perfectly. Below are some tips and advice.

Tip #1: Be prepared

One great thing you should do when working with a funeral director is to be prepared ahead of time. This means having an idea of what kind of service you would like, what type of casket or urn you would prefer, and what your budget is. By being prepared ahead of time, you'll be able to save both yourself and the funeral director a lot of stress. The funeral director will be able to focus on providing you with options that fit your needs rather than having to start from scratch.

Tip #2: Communicate your needs clearly

When you're meeting with the funeral director, it's important that you communicate your needs clearly. This means being concise and direct about what you want. You may find it helpful to jot down your thoughts ahead of time so that you don't forget anything important during the meeting. Remember, the funeral director is there to help you, so don't worry about asking questions or expressing concerns.

Tip #3: Have realistic expectations

It's important to have realistic expectations when working with a funeral director. Understand that they are professionals who are there to help you during a difficult time, but they are not miracle workers. While they will do everything they can to meet your needs, you shouldn't expect them to be able to fulfil requests that are outside of their scope of work. For example, if you wish to have elaborate decorations at the funeral or a poem that will be read at the service translated into a different language, this may be beyond what the funeral director can provide.

Tip #4: Be Grateful for their help

Finally, remember to show your appreciation for the funeral director's help during this difficult time. They are likely dealing with many different clients all at once, so a simple "thank you" can mean a great deal. You might also consider sending them a handwritten note or giving them a small gift after the funeral to say thank you for all their hard work.


Planning a funeral is never easy, but working with a professional funeral director can make the process much smoother. By following these tips, you can get the most out of working with your funeral director. Contact a local funeral director for further info.