Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One
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Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

Hi, my name is Crystal, and I love tradition and ritual, but I also love novel things and creating something special just for one person. When my mum died a few years ago, I decided that I wanted to write her funeral service – not just my eulogy, but the whole service. I wanted to tie in traditional elements as well as Bible verses and poems that she loved, but I also wanted something that was just for her and her alone. I learned a lot through that experience. If you have lost a loved one, I extend you my sympathy. I know how that feels, and I want to help with the funeral service. This blog has ideas and tips for writing your own service as well as a range of other things. I hope it helps.


Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

What Funeral Directors Do For a Family

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Planning a funeral can be very difficult for anyone, which is why it's good to work with a compassionate funeral director. This person can walk you through much of the process and handle many matters related to having a funeral conducted. It's good to understand what funeral directors do when it comes to helping a family, so you know what to discuss with him or her while planning the funeral. Note a few factors to keep in mind.

1. Transferring of deceased

The funeral director will typically handle the transferring of the deceased person to the funeral home for the funeral itself. When you've chosen a funeral home and director, they will contact the local hospital, morgue, or other location where the remains are currently being held.

2. Work with clergy and other professionals for the funeral itself

After choosing a funeral home and director, they will work with your chosen clergyperson, minister or other such person who may conduct the funeral. They may also work with the musician who will provide the music and arrange to receive and then display flowers sent for the funeral. They will also typically arrange to have the flowers and other such mementos sent back to the family, as directed.

3. Work with cemetery for graveside services

After the funeral in a funeral home, most families will want some type of graveside service performed at the cemetery. A funeral director will typically work with the cemetery to make these arrangements and ensure the grave is dug, a tent and chairs are set up if necessary and so on.

4. Paperwork

The funeral director will typically help a family with requesting needed death certificates and may even help them to compose and file an obituary. They may be able to answer some questions about filing for death benefits, veteran's benefits and the like. 

However, note that a funeral director is not a lawyer and cannot give you actual legal advice about a will, insurance and other such matters. They may assist you with understanding the paperwork needed to apply for benefits, they and may have many referral services at their disposal for agencies to call for such information, but they do not work as legal advisors. If you're not sure if your funeral director can assist you with certain types of paperwork and claims, don't hesitate to ask, and they will no doubt help in whatever capacity they can. 

Contact a funeral director from a home like Lee Adam Funeral Services to learn more about the necessary steps of planning a funeral.