Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One
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Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

Hi, my name is Crystal, and I love tradition and ritual, but I also love novel things and creating something special just for one person. When my mum died a few years ago, I decided that I wanted to write her funeral service – not just my eulogy, but the whole service. I wanted to tie in traditional elements as well as Bible verses and poems that she loved, but I also wanted something that was just for her and her alone. I learned a lot through that experience. If you have lost a loved one, I extend you my sympathy. I know how that feels, and I want to help with the funeral service. This blog has ideas and tips for writing your own service as well as a range of other things. I hope it helps.


Writing Your Own Funeral Service for a Loved One

The Importance of Pre-Planning your Funeral Service

Minea Pesola

The funeral service discussion is one that nobody wants to have; unfortunately, some uncomfortable discussions are unavoidable. For the sake of you and your family, it is very important that you pre-plan your funeral service as thoroughly as possible.

With proper planning, you give your loved ones some much needed peace of mind in an already very stressful time. To properly plan out your funeral service, you need to make the following considerations:

What type of service do you want?

It is important that you decide what occurs during your funeral service, and how your body is taken care of afterwards. Now is the time to decide whether you would prefer burial or cremation.

Decide whether you would prefer solely a graveside service, or if you would like a memorial event in your honour. For the memorial event, decide whether you would like it to be held at a church, at your own home, or at some other location.

If you decide on cremation, you may want a service to be held at the crematory.

In the case of burial, there are a few considerations; do you prefer an open or a closed casket? Furthermore, do you have a specific burial place in mind? If you have a family tomb, this eases the decision significantly. If you have specific religious mourning traditions that you would like observed, or a visitation or wake before the funeral, make it clear in your wishes.

How will you personalise your service?

For many people, it is very important to them that they have their personal touches added to their funeral service.

Is there a location that is close to your heart where you would like your service held? If you have chosen to be cremated, you may wish that your ashes be scattered somewhere special.

Additionally, you can choose specifically who would officiate your service, who would serve as pallbearers, and the person/people that you would like to deliver eulogies.

Do you have any specific prayers or readings you would like to be given at your service? If so, who would you like to deliver them?

Do you have any pieces of music that you would like played at your service? If so, would you like them to be performed live by musicians, or would you prefer them to be played through a speaker system?

Invitations and Charities

If there are any charities close to your heart, you may wish for people to make donations to them.

If there are any people, organisations, or groups (particularly ones that your family may not know) that you would like to be invited to your service, plan out for them to be notified of and invited to your funeral services.